and that truly understanding what one did wrong requires having the experience yourself. The victim might believe both that a sincere apology requires the perpetrator understanding what he or she did wrong. Why is this symmetry so important? One consideration relates to something we’ve discussed before, which is the connection between understanding and experience. If he suffers because his child falls ill or his house burns down, it might be satisfying, but it’s not quite the same. It’s unsatisfying having someone who has victimized you feel no pain at all, but it’s also not enough for that person to feel pain of a sort that’s unrelated to the victimization-ideally, the sexual harasser should feel what it’s like to be the victim of sexual harassment. In his landmark book Against Empathy: The Case for Rational Compassion, the University of Toronto psychologist Paul Bloom argues that empathy can lead to irrational and unfair political. “Why an “exchange” of shame? Lockwood says that the victim she spoke with doesn’t want the perpetrator to suffer, but I think a more honest reckoning is that she doesn’t merely want him to suffer.
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